Like our Facebook Page

Early Times Newspaper Jammu, Leading Newspaper Jammu
Breaking News :   Three men from Jammu and Kashmir detained in Chandigarh | IAF cautious and alert, says Air Chief BS Dhanoa amid Indo-Pak tensions | Normalcy returning in Jammu, students flock to schools in large numbers | Barricades removed in Srinagar’s commercial hub Lal Chowk | Jammu & Kashmir government's help saves Srinagar BPO from shutdown | Congress leader Ghulam Nabi Azad stopped at Jammu airport, being sent back to Delhi | Flood situation worsens in north India, most other states battle to stay afloat | Army man martyred, 4 injured in Pakistan firing along LoC in Poonch | Twitter Suspends 200 Pakistan Accounts After Anti-India Tweets on Kashmir | Jammu Police nabs rumour mongers from outskirts | Congress & Left Leaders are exposed after removal of Article 370, 35-A: BJP | AJKGRDS condemns demolishing of Guru Ravi Dass Mandir Tughlakabad | Youth Congress condemns detention of senior leaders | Srinagar's uptown markets stand with Modi's decision, resume business | After nukes, Rajnath talks about PoK | Suspense continues over future of JK administrative services, but officials hopeful | Last phase thrown open without inauguration for public convenience | Syed Geelani had internet, phone access during J&K lockdown, 2 BSNL officers suspended | With Kashmir under lockdown, ISPR running Geelani''s Twitter handle? | Munish reaches out to people at Shergarh | Will distribute my salary among needy' | Many schools open with thin attendance | No major law and order situation reported across valley, says J-K Director Information | J&K political parties under intelligence scanner | J&K cadre Ex IPS officer gets 15 years jail in 2009 Drug Case | DC reviews traffic management in Jammu city | Rehabilitation of shopkeepers: Div Com inspects newly constructed shops at Narwal | Anti-India violence not conducive to peace, PM Modi tells Donald Trump over phone call | SC Lawyer Seeks FIR Against Shehla Rashid For Accusing Army Of 'Ransacking Houses' in Kashmir | Northern Railway cancels/diverts trains due to operational reasons in several northern states | LS ex-MPs asked to vacate official bungalows within a week: Housing panel | Retirement age for all Central Forces personnel fixed at 60 years | Delhi High Court seeks response from Centre on Shah Faesal's detention at airport | Flights operations likely to be suspended for 2 weeks from Oct 1 | Former J-K DGP mocks Pak Army Chief | Schools reopen in Ramban; to reopen in Banihal tomorrow | News about seizure of weapons of J&K police SPOs is fake: Home Secy | In daring operation, IAF chopper successfully rescues 4 persons stuck in flooded Tawi river | Centre erred in abrogating Article 370 in J&K, must reverse decision: Ghulam Nabi Azad | Release of detained political activists begins in Kishtwar | Former IAS officer Shah Faesal moves court over detention at Delhi airport | West Pak refugees, Valmikis hopeful post Article 370 | Most educational institutions reopen in Jammu's border districts | NSA Ajit Doval briefs Amit Shah on J&K situation | Jammu-Srinagar National Highway reopened after three-hour-long blockade due to landslide | Holistic approach needed after revoking Article 370: Lt Gen Hooda | Several Gorkhas, Congress Sewa Dal members join BJP in Jammu | POJK DPs Front hails abrogation of Article 370 | Youth Congress condemns detention of senior leaders | JPU celebrates World Photographer Day | ROF urges Govt to resolve pending issues | Congress criticizes BJP for betraying people on statehood | BJP appeals masses not to pay heed to rumours | JTC, SKF demand permanent rehabilitation of KPs | Kailash Kund Yatra arrangements discussed | Back to village Program: 312 identified works started | J&K Bank lowers interest rate on loans by 0.10 pc | Maj Gen Sehrawat takes over as GoC of 71 Sub Area in Udhampur | DDC Poonch reviews working of offices, dev works | Miserbaly failure of prosecution leads to acquittal of charas smugglers | Govt appoints 12 ACFs, 3 Range Officers | Jammu traders demand extension of deadline for filing income tax, GST returns | Court reject bail in POCSO | News about seizure of weapons of J&K police SPOs is fake: Home Secy | Guv advisors review development, security in Doda, Kishtwar | Cong leader criticizes Government | Cross-LoC bus service from Poonch to Rawalakot suspended, 42 PoK residents stranded | Social Welfare Department organizes assessment camp under RVY | Anaemia Mukt Bharat: Workshop held | CBSM organizes composite Mushaira at Akhnoor | Canara Bank conducts bottom- up consultation process | Induction programme held at YCET | ESRM presents nukad "Zindgi Ka Sabak" | BLSKS presents Dogri musical play "Raja Mandlik" | Rich Harvest School organizes Investiture Ceremony | Jammu people participate in Anandutsav | SIPS wins 'Institution of the Year Award' | DPS Jammu excels in inter-school basketball tourney | SMVDU organizes workshop on classroom management | 2 J&K Bn NCC commences camp at Nagrota | NGO hails scraping of Article 370, 35-A | Pakistan threatens India with Atom Bomb | Whether abrogation of Article 370 and bifurcation of State of J&K is legitimate or not? | Bazigarh and Harijan Basti of Bagh-e-Bahu reel under acute shortage of civic amenities | Back Issues  
news details
“Battle with depression”
Komaljeet Gill7/19/2019 11:59:18 PM
The series of thoughts hit my soul often. Thoughts that are eating me alive. Thoughts that linger my soul, making voids. Thoughts that are acting like termites. Thoughts that are choking me in middle of the night. same perception is leading me to depression and creating stress inside my caged mind. Sometimes I feel like life is not fair or things never go my way.
Regrets failure, so many bad choices, shattered dreams, mistakes I made that brought me to the day I don't want to be in, the day I feel stuck in.
Each word, action or passing glance is an attack, my body aches, I feel tired of being in the world I don't belong to. All I want to do is sleep (my easy escape option) until the pain, the tiredness, the weight of thoughts I'm holding goes away.
My depression in reality is disappointment. Disappointment with myself. Too weak, too sensitive, too easily get influenced, lack of confidence, feeling of worthless and purposeless. These clouds of Gloomy thoughts hang over my head and never goes away, it creeps upon me during the most unexpected times. It lurks and waits for something great to happens just so it can ruin it and can convince me that its actually something terrible. I have those few Genuine moments in life in which my laugh or smile is real. But for most of the time, even when I'm smiling or laughing, I'm breaking on inside.
I wish I did not have to pretend. In all honesty it's the most exhausting thing I have ever done. Depression takes a lot from people just like other diseases might take away someone's ability to go with life like they used to. Depression takes my ability to act like the person I'm used to being. Nothing inside of me wants to continue living a life riddled with anxiety and consumed by depression.
Many of you are relating my story with your life. I know it's never easy telling someone about your mental health. It's never easy trying to explain the heavy feelings in your chest, the lack of motivation you have, the heavy head and whirlwind of sad thoughts that are constantly, but hold on------ don't loose hope
Remember the time you thought you never could survive the situation, you did and you can surely do it again.
It took 5 years to figure out what actually happened to my life. While going through it, a lot of changes reached the roots. Reforming from the confident person to a timid, it was really heart breaking. The fear of failures, regrets of past, emotional breakdowns and lot more was pilling up. I could not watch myself collapse. So, I decided to stand strong against these crummy thoughts. I started searching things to divert my mind
There are things that helped me to stay away from depression a little bit longer. Everyone is different my things might help you, they might not. But even if my personal solutions are not exactly right for you. I want to give you hope these are things, these are ways to beat depression. So here are the few things I do to help myself to stay out of depression.
1. Talk to someone: Talk to someone who is close to you, it could be your best friend, teacher, sibling or parents. Pour out your soul to him or her. Pick out what he or she speaks to you about your situation and remind yourself constantly of it. If you talk to someone but you still feel empty.
TALK TO GOD: cast all your worries, pain disappointments to him because only he gives you the assurance that everything will ultimately be okay.
2.Control Your thoughts: For many people depression begins in their thoughts, lots of discouraged people do not link their thinking with their feelings, but the two are highly connected.
When a person says, "I am WORTHLESS"
"I have NO FUTURE"
"I can't do anything right"
These exaggerated thoughts will shape your mood. Stop and replace them with truth "I'll work hard on myself, I have a value in the eyes of God "he loves me and promises to give a hopeful future"
3. Dont compare yourself to others: Comparison impedes positivity. It attracts the act of negativity and repels the needful vibes. It closes all the doors of self-improvement. Stop comparing yourself because it not only harm your mind but your self-respect. Stop disrespecting yourself for no reason, it will drag you to the disease called depression.
4. listens to your heart: Just lay still and listen to your heart. Ask yourself what you want and what adds meaning to your life. Search your soul for that, find out what motivates you and start planning towards it
5. Try Setting small and large goals: The best therapy for depression is distraction Engross yourself in any activity that can keep your mind off the pain.
**Read some good books to find your way to inner peace Books like "conversation with God "Neale Donald Walsh.
"life's amazing secrets"- Gaur Gopal das
"IKAGAI-Japanese secret to a long and happy life" -Albert Liebermann & Heltor Garcia.
"To anyone suffering from depression"- Stephen Hawking
"The Secret" _ Rhonda Byrne.
Some other therapies like exercising, swimming, dancing, music, drama, photography, painting, sports these therapies can be a healing force for the body and mind because the creative process helps in releasing brain chemicals that help in fighting depression.
Sometimes the only need is the family support to end the phase of depression.
Its my humble request to whosoever reading this article, If u r a parent try to understand your child as much as u can. May be they are afraid of you or not be able to talk about it openly .Try to be more friendly and polite towards them. No one else can provide the comfort like you can. Spend more quality time with them and have a healthy conversation. Try to teach them something meaningful every day.
It is difficult to know your role when your parents are in depression, taking care of them should be our top most priority. Be sure to remind them that they are not struggling alone, you are standing next to them, Express how important they are to you. As your parents are growing old take care of them, love them for all the sacrifices they made. Respect them for all the efforts they made to give you a comfortable life.
Only love care respect &understanding can minimise depression &help us to live happy & peaceful life.
  Share This News with Your Friends on Social Network  
  Comment on this Story  
Early Times Android App
BSE Sensex
NSE Nifty
Home About Us Top Stories Local News National News Sports News Opinion Editorial ET Cetra Advertise with Us ET E-paper
J&K Govt. Official website
Jammu Kashmir Tourism
Mata Vaishnodevi Shrine Board
Shri Amarnath Ji Shrine Board
Shri Shiv Khori Shrine Board
Train Enquiry
Jammu Kashmir Bank
State Bank of India
Passport Department
Income Tax Department
IT Education
Web Site Design Services
Jammu University
Jammu University Results
Kashmir University
IGNOU Jammu Center